Series Grief and Heartbreak: Healing Your Past - Article 4 of 6
Accepting your past.
If you are struggling to come to terms with heartbreak, the key to helping you to get over it is to acknowledge your loss and accept the fact that what happened has now become part of your past. Your past is the history of where you have come from, and only by examining your past and looking at the big picture, the good and the bad, can you break free from the bad memories and move on into the future.
Once bad memories have been eliminated, the past has the potential to become a strong platform on which to build your future. If you have suffered grief and heartbreak, it may be for a variety of reasons. These can include a romantic disappointment, a betrayal of a close friendship, career issues, or even the death of a loved one. It may seem that your whole way of life has been impacted and is stuck, limiting your ability to move on and live your life.
Accepting your loss.
If you have been aggrieved in a long-term relationship, and your hopes and dreams have been shattered, you may have some guilt feelings about the entire situation. Remember that when a relationship breaks up, the same thing happens to the dreams for the future you may have made together. A key to accepting your loss is to put aside any guilt feelings, and not try to live out the unfulfilled dreams. It may be painful but leaving the baggage behind will motivate you to get on with your life.
However, even with the best of intentions, you may find yourself from time to time revisiting the distressing experiences. Take note that you are remembering old memories which have no more significance for you, and you no longer need to feel helpless and hopeless.
Your world may have fallen apart because of grief and a broken heart, but you can take action not to stay trapped in a twilight of misery.
Taking positive action to move on.
When it comes to moving on after heartbreak, not everyone is on the same page. Some people may find it more difficult to cope and get things together. Studies have shown that the help of a competent therapist, will be beneficial for all who have been hurt and grieved, not only those who are struggling to move on with life.
How therapy, such as hypnotherapy – which is highly recommended, can help you:
· You will learn to be mentally strong and independent, and have the courage to take control of your life.
· Hypnotherapy can access the subconscious mind, and help to clear the baggage of harmful memories.
· Anxiety, which is a major factor when you are hurting, can also be successfully treated by eliminating negativity, and restoring your self-esteem.
· Therapy can help to rebuild your self-confidence, and help to create a different mindset that will give you an entirely new view of life.
Experts agree that when you are able to look at the bigger picture, and see how you have gained from a painful experience by taking positive steps, you will move on to even greater things.